tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3806769192871730293.post5085780563173453240..comments2023-10-31T11:38:19.515-04:00Comments on RAD Online: My message to RAD Sufferer's Young And Old: Your not aloneRADOnlinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04692236536150808447noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3806769192871730293.post-90393549950573716682009-07-19T10:20:36.932-04:002009-07-19T10:20:36.932-04:00So...Just how do we help our son? He is currently ...So...Just how do we help our son? He is currently in juvenile boot camp setting.He has blown his furloughs and his case manger is afraid of him.He wants to pay back those who hurt him by "killing all moms" I am top of his list. He is 12.<br />We have been doing therapeutic parenting for over 20 yrs. We aren't perfect,but we do know how to keep a calm house and separate a child from his behavior. Al is the first child we haven't been able to find a way in. Everything escalates him. Everything.<br />The other children (also adopted,similar background) want him home,but are afraid he will hurt me. We want him home. we want him to begin to heal. We do not care if he can love us,we just want him to not want to kill us.<br />How do we help our son???????<br />We have parented children with horrendous histories. Three were forced to participate in cannibalism.I don't think it gets worse than that. There isn't much that shocks us any more. I think the difference between Al and the other kids is that they hated feeling the way they did. He seems to consider it the source of his power.<br />I am grieving for my son and feel helpless to help him. I also have to keep the rest of the family and myself safe. The other kids have worked very hard to get to where they are.I cannot abandon them to help their brother. Al needs extensive help that he cannot get in a locked juvenile facility. He cannot live at home because he isn't yet safe. It is such a catch-22. <br /><br />I don't want to hear loving him will help. I don't want to hear "give him back" I especially don't want to hear we are sainted, or conversely, are causing his all his issues. I just need some hope.<br />If our son does not heal he will kill someone.It is his only goal.<br />He is 12.<br /><br />I am sorry this is so disjointed.Lindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01409215673772443518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3806769192871730293.post-57263414411930510322009-07-16T18:53:57.962-04:002009-07-16T18:53:57.962-04:00Dear Linda,
I deserve no thanks. I should be t...Dear Linda,<br /><br /> I deserve no thanks. I should be thanking you for reading my silly little blog.<br /><br /> I am glad you find the view from an RAD survivor helpful. Continue reading, I have some exciting pots coming up soon!<br /><br /> Michael<br /> http://www.rad-online.orgRADOnlinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04692236536150808447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3806769192871730293.post-8700287762569481212009-07-16T17:15:44.286-04:002009-07-16T17:15:44.286-04:00I hope you don't mind, but I added your blog t...I hope you don't mind, but I added your blog to my blog list. I am learning much from reading and I know others are too. You are speaking for many who cannot do this for themselves. My daughter included. Thank you.Linda Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03978492301293470296noreply@blogger.com